Coming September 2025

Why Safe and Stable Stewards Exists

My Story

I was molested as a child around age 8 by someone very close to me in my community - which is sadly typical, as at least one in four girls and one in six boys in the United States experience child sexual abuse, with about 90% perpetrated by someone known and trusted by the child or family.

Like so many others, I was told I was just "playing a game." It took years for me to realize something wrong had happened. When I finally remembered at age 13 during a church conference, I had a panic attack. I shared my story with another girl there, only to discover the same thing had been happening to her. Then we never spoke about it again.

Growing up in a religious environment during the peaks of purity culture created a vacuum of spaces where I could learn about my body, sexuality, or safety. I didn't have the language I needed to tell someone what was happening to me. As a young Black girl, I was constantly being sexualized and told to be hypervigilant about my behavior, or else I would be labeled as "fast." These messages, combined with my assault, caused me to internalize shame about what had happened to me.

The silence and shame I carried prevented me from speaking about my assault for years. When I was sexually harassed by a college faculty member at 19, I felt cursed to be hurt in this way again and again. But this time was different - I was in a college community where talking about sexual harassment was commonplace. My college community supported me with information, emotional support, resources, and consequences for my perpetrator. This experience gave me space to explore new passions and ultimately led me to becoming a doula and discovering reproductive justice work.

Engaging in restorative justice practices helped me break the cycle of abuse and shame. It gave me the confidence to come forward about my childhood assault and even confront my abuser directly.

The Mission

One piece of information that stuck with me while learning about childhood sexual assault is how much of it can be prevented through comprehensive sex education. But I knew it had to be more than that. The communal wounds created by abuse, shame, and silence needed healing too.

That's why Safe and Stable Stewards goes beyond sexual education to include practices that help children connect with themselves, their values, and their communities. When young people have something to fall back on - when they know who they are and what they value - overcoming shame becomes easier and they can create safer bonds that honor their authentic selves.

Breaking the Loop

For me, justice means breaking the loop of abuse, shame, and silence. This curriculum gives young people the tools I wish I had: the language to name what's happening to them, the skills to trust their inner wisdom, and the community support to speak up when something isn't right.

Every young person deserves to know they are their first guide - that their feelings, boundaries, and experiences matter. They deserve comprehensive information, supportive community, and the confidence to navigate their lives with integrity and safety.

That's why this work exists. To break loops. To heal communities. To empower the next generation with the tools they need to protect themselves and each other.

What you’ll get

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    Access to a facilitators guide that includes 8 lessons and supplementary materials

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    Each lesson includes a grounding practice, discussion questions, opportunities for reflection and so much more

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    Inclusion in the digital ecosystem where organizations and parents that are using this curriculum can talk and share experiences

✺ Frequently asked questions ✺

  • Safe and Stable Stewards is much broader than sexuality education. Our 8-week curriculum covers identity development, values clarification, emotional regulation, relationship skills, digital citizenship, and community building. While we do include age-appropriate sexuality education as one component, it's presented within a holistic empowerment framework that focuses on values-based decision making and health rather than promoting specific behaviors. The curriculum is designed to help young people develop critical thinking skills across all areas of their lives, not just around sexuality.

  • Our curriculum is specifically designed to work WITH family values, not against them. We teach young people to thoughtfully consider all sources of wisdom in their lives, including family teachings. Rather than replacing family guidance, we build communication skills that often improve family relationships. The program creates space for different perspectives while encouraging ongoing dialogue with trusted adults. Our "You Are Your First Guide" principle means helping young people engage more thoughtfully with all the guidance they receive, including from their families.

  • We focus on building critical thinking skills rather than providing "right" answers. Our trained facilitators create space for multiple perspectives while maintaining safety for all participants. We have clear guidelines about when to involve parents or guardians, and our approach emphasizes respectful dialogue rather than debate. When controversial topics arise, we help young people practice the same values-based reflection and decision-making skills they're learning throughout the program.

  • Absolutely not. Our curriculum supports and enhances family conversations rather than replacing them. We help young people build skills to engage more thoughtfully with family guidance and provide a neutral space for questions they might not feel comfortable asking at home. The program encourages ongoing dialogue with trusted adults and often strengthens family communication. The knowledge provided in this course gives children language for discussing important topics that can open up dialogues for family guidance.

  • We provide age-appropriate adaptations for different developmental stages, with content specifically modified for ages 9-12 versus 13+. Throughout the program, we emphasize choice—participants only share what feels comfortable to them. All content focuses on safety and empowerment rather than pushing boundaries. We maintain a strong emphasis on ongoing communication with trusted adults and encourage participants to continue conversations at home. You can also reach out to us via the digital ecosystem for support from us and other folks teaching their kids the same material

  • For Organizations: Contact us to discuss bringing the group curriculum to your community. We'll work with you to assess your needs, provide facilitator training, and support implementation.

    For Families: Our self-guided workbooks are available for direct purchase. Simply order online and you'll receive everything you need to begin the journey with your young person.